If you think you can fix your child’s behavior, parenting expert Dr. Shefali Tsabary says, it’s time to think again. “To be the conscious parent means to divorce ourselves from any idea that the answer lies in our child’s behavior,” she says. “The real awakening is about turning all eyes inward.”

Watch as Dr. Shefali advises a group of parents in the Lifeclass Social Lab on how to be more attuned to their sons and daughters.